Times Do Get Rough.

Being a mother times do get rough.

Some people think it's so easy to look after a child, have a spotless house and look perfect. 
truth is, it's not.

It's hard work. 

Every mother has the days where their child won't settle or go down for a nap, is clingy all day, cries all day, isn't well and so on.

which makes even getting ready to go out sometimes in the morning.
I know when Samuel is having a bad day, it takes me FOREVER to just do simple things. 

People without children think that when they have a child, their partner is gonna go out working, while they're working they'll have themselves all dressed, looking lovely, their baby will be in a nice outfit, the house will be clean and tidy and dinner will be on the table when their partner comes home. 

that is so not true! 

Sometimes I have lazy days, sometimes I don't get dressed and stay in my pyjamas all day, sometimes I let my hair get greasy, sometimes I don't always have make-up on my face, sometimes Samuels in a baby grow all day too, sometimes my house is a tip, sometimes I let the washing pile up, sometimes I don't wash up for a night, sometimes I haven't got tea ready until late. there's always something.

No mother always looks perfect, always has their child ready on time, always has tea on the table for their partner when they're home, no mother always has a tidy house.

No mother is perfect. 

not agreeing with government guidelines.

Having a 7 month old baby, at ANY age is hard work. 

but every 7 month old baby is different, every baby is different. one thing might work for you child that doesn't work for another. 

for example, people use the 'crying' method for their babies to settle themselves? I have tried that, yes I feel awful about it but I've tried everything for Samuel to settle himself, it doesn't work, you have to cuddle or rock him to sleep. he is not one of these babies that you leave to cry for half an hour and he'll sleep. 

He's been amazing since day 1, just as they get older things change. 

My 6 month old baby was crawling and pulling himself up on everything, he is now 7 months old and he is just faster at doing so and he walks along the sofa and anything he can.

no way did I think I'd be chasing around a 6 month old baby. 
I thought I had loads of time to even think about him crawling.
you have to be prepared for anything as like I said before, every baby is completely different. 
some do thing earlier than others, some speak earlier than others, crawl, walk, start solids. 

screw the government crap, what did they do back in the day when they didn't have formula and couldn't breast feed? they were given cows milk, yet we can't give our babies cows milk until they're a year old? 
you can't give them tap water until a certain age? 
They're not allowed solids until they're 6 months old. 
blah blah fucking blah. 

I think the 'guidelines' nowadays are STUPID. 

my THREE month old baby was refusing to have any milk or water and I panicked, didn't know what to do because he wasn't 'allowed' solids. 
screw that, I started him on a TINY bit of baby rice at night and within a couple of days, he was drinking his milk again. 
I carried on the baby rice for a month, then tried him on a bit of porridge at 4 and a half months old. 
he LOVED it. 
By 6 months he was having three meals a day. 

now at 7 months old, he has porridge mixed with his milk in the mornings, he has a mid morning snack, lunch, an afternoon snack, dinner and then a 9oz bottle before bed. 
He has cut down to only having two bottles a day. he's on follow on milk and he is perfectly healthy. 

I think that the government and health visitors should only be there when you ASK for advice, not sit there and get it shoved down your throat. it's out of order. 
'You can't do that' 'don't put your baby in that' 'don't let him on his legs too much'
blah blah blah. 

I think as a mother you know what is best for your child  so go with how YOU feel, so many rules have been put in about everything. I don't agree with any of it. it's pathetic if you ask me.
the health visitors don't see out children everyday, we do. how do they know what's best for them? the answer is, they don't. they just think they do. 

Agree or disagree but don't give me hate for stating my opinion! 

thanks for reading.. 

Jade-Louise x

My Relationship With Joseph.

so, me and Joe have nearly been together 20 months now, which is so close to two years. 

how it all started - 

so me and Joe started talking around the 14th of April? I can't remember the exact date, but we  spoke on kik for ages before giving out each others numbers, it was me who actually asked for Joe's number because it was 'easier' to text than to go on kik ;) 

I was only speaking to Joe while he was at home because he couldn't go on kik unless he was on the wifi at home.

we exchanged numbers and we CONSTANTLY was texting each other, he'd even sneakily text me at work all the time. 

I had a house party, I remember it clear as day and I randomly text Joe asking if he wanted to speak on the phone, was the first time we ever did speak on the phone and he was so cute. I was VERY drunk, he was laughing away at me. 

from then we spoke on the phone every night, we skype near enough every night. 

things were going well. 

so after speaking for a good month, we spoke about meeting up. 

we met up on the 25th of May, he was so cute. we walked around marine lake in Weston and as we were walking he held my hand, lots of hugs and so on. we sat down at a bench for ages, just chatting and getting to know each other, then Joe done the sneaky putting my hair back behind my ear and he kissed me. it was THE cutest thing. we went back to his watched a DVD and then it was time for me to go home! 

Joe walked me back to the train station, we said our goodbyes, at this point the train journey to see Joe was 20 minutes so it was too far away but with him working and me working.  We could only really see each other whenever we had the free time. we started 'seeing' each other from this point after we'd met. we wanted to get to know each other a bit more before making it official. 

we still spoke on the phone all the time, text each other, skyped each other. 

we met up loads, we seen each other all the time. 

he stayed at mine near enough every weekend, we'd have a few drunks and what not. even though we wasn't 'official' and didn't want everyone to know just yet, it felt like it. We both said we were practically together. 

I was so happy, he made me so happy. 

then one day It was on a Sunday, the 8th of July, me and Joe had been basically seeing each other from the end of May by this point so I wonder what was up, he rang me and was texting me all day, saying how much he wanted to see me and he really wanted me to go down to Weston. so I worked out train times so I could go and see him for a few hours. 

I hopped on a train and he met me at the train station, we walked to Weston beach, we sat on the rocks for about an hour, just chatting laughing, taking our first pictures together and so on. then he looked at me all serious so I said 'what's wrong?' then he came out with 'jade... I really want to be together, do you wanna be?' In my head I was like 'OMFGOMFGOMFG' hahaha! I was like 'yeeeees'. I was so happy it was 'official' in though, it kinda was anyway in our world ;) 

so I got a phone call while I was at work and it was Joe, he never rang me at work so I answered straight away. he sounded really really upset, I asked what was wrong and he told me that he had some bad news. he told me that his family were moving to swindon in a few weeks, his mum wanted to make things work with his step-dad Danny and he wanted to go with her to do whatever made her happy. 

he got me to promise things was going to be alright. he said that he still wanted to be together as I was the best thing to happen to him. He didn't wanna let me go, even though it was gonna be long distance he said he knew that it was going to work because he was falling for me. I was positive things were gonna work, I knew they would. we had a strong relationship. 

The end of the month came, when Joe was moving. I was in tears that day as I knew I wouldn't see him for a while. 

I was in the process of moving back in with my mum, he was helping out with the house in Swindon. 

Joe got a job working nights up in Swindon so I hardly spoke to him but when we did have time to speak or when we were both awake, we made the most of it. he'd text me goodnight while he was working, he said good morning to me when he finished work and goodnight from him. 

Although we hardly spoke, we still made time for each other. 

we seen each other as much as we could. 

we had been having a long distance relationship for about 5 months now and my mum asked me if I wanted joe to move in. I said it was completely up to her as it was her house, she said she wanted him to, her and Joe got on so well and she loved him to pieces. he used to come and stay for weeks at a time when he wasn't working and when he lost that job, he stayed for three weeks and that's when she asked, just after he went home. 

I rang Joe and spoke to him about it, he was having problems at home as it was, there wasn't enough bedrooms so it was a squeeze and he was sleeping on the sofa. 

He said yes about moving in so we organise to go pick him and all his stuff up. by November he was living with us, we hadn't even been together a year but things went well. 

I actually conceived in November(lol) Things went amazingly while Joe lived with us, he got along with everyone in my family. 

I found out I was pregnant on December 18th, right before Christmas. 

Joe was scared, I was scared. 

but we were prepared for anything, we were strong we knew we could cope. 

we went through the whole pregnancy together, he stuck by my side, he only ever missed one scan and that was because he was working and they refused to let him have the time off, unfortunately the scan he missed was the scan where I found out Samuel was a boy. 8 rang him as soon as I got out of the scan room, the signal was crap and I said 'we're having a' and the phone cut off so he rang back and he was like 'what are we havingggg' I said a boy and he nearly started crying on the phone, he was over the moon! As was I! 

My labour, he was perfect. I couldn't of asked for a better birth partner, he had to take it in turns with my mum because he hated seeing me in so much pain that it was upsetting him so he left the room for abit, he wouldn't of left if I didn't have my mum there. I thought it was cute though, as soon as Samuel came out, him and my mum sobbed like little girls, obviously I did too but it was so cute. I remember him wrapping his arms around me and saying 'I'm so proud of you beautiful, you done so well' :) 

now 7 months on, we have our own house, a perfectly happy, beautiful, 7 month baby. Joe is working, we have a roof over our head, food in our bellies and we're warm at night. 

I'm not buttering anything up, me and Joe argue yes, we've gone through stages where we argue a hell of a lot. but who cares, all couples do. If anything it's made us a stronger couple, we can come through anything together, we're always there for each other and when I'm upset or down, he is the most supportive person. 

I admit, I can be a bitch to him sometimes, I sit and think he deserves better at times but we deserve each other. 

he's not just my boyfriend, he's my bestfriend, my rock, and my soul mate. I love him more now than every before. I love him to the moon and back. 

I couldn't ask for a better boyfriend and for a better father for my child. 

he is the most amazing daddy to Samuel and Samuel thinks the world of his daddy, he loves him so much. 

he is the most gorgeous, caring, kind, cuddly man I've ever met and I love him more than I can put into words.

I can't wait to marry my sexy bastard of a boyfriend and I can't wait to create more tiny humans with him. ;) 

in other words, I LOVE YOU JOSEPH RICHARD DAVID DREW <3 

thank-you for reading, hope you enjoyed it :) 

Jade-Louise x